and its not just about reposting. its about being concious that there is casual bigotry every where.. like calling something 'gay' if it is broken, or pointless ; and actively correcting this habit  when it is heard.
its signing petitions and going on support marches,  it sending 20th yr anniversary cards to a relative and his partner, when noone else in your family  would think to do it.

so if nothing else, read this and think...  what price silence?


http://jesus-h-biscuit.livejournal.com/1215367.html       Matthew Shepard Can't, & I Can - THAT'S why.

ack.. so i still havent tweeked my c.v ... i really must get around to that.


erm.. aidy has tonsilitis and is on antibiotics, napping and rest from work..
term is starting again at portsmouth uni so freshers week has seen lots of new students.,cant wait to get back to weekly get togethers. :D

i also totally need to get back to working out.
*sigh*

paddy is moving back lol.. early december

had a nice weekend last weekend.. it was the albert road event in pompey... so we went along...was something different to do anyway.

work is tolerable... lol.. there is plenty of eyecandy.. and we wwent for a staff night out  on friday night.. loooots  of fun

so.. a couple of weeks ago i talked to greg on the phone... was so good to hear him. :D

on aug 5th i had my tatoo done, im pleased with it and its healed already.

on the 10th aidy and i set out  for 2 weeks in scotland with chrissie and neil, drove through squally weather to keswick where we had booked a night in a nice hotel, keswick is lovely, very quaint and picturesque.

so far, once up in dalwhinnie, we have visited aviemore,climbed a hill to see a meteor shower, seen the highland wildlife park, the local distillery, pitlochry, and blair atholl castle.
having a great time so far, the weather has only been really bad on one day.

again, aidy's dad has dangled a metaphorical carrot at aidy. a cafe bar and walkers bunkhouse... basically we would run it, the lease on it is 800 quid a month.we had a look as this is a tiny hamlet and aidy's mum has the key.its so tempting, but cashflow and logistics forbid it  :(

anyhoo.. i think i will tweek my c.v and broaden my horizons when i get home.
i fancy working in a wedding shop.

 

well now. i keep meaning to jot down all the philosophical thoughts that occur to me, but they are usually in the middle of the night or when im nowhere near my computer ; and then i forget them.

i booked an appointment to have my final  final final tatooo. on  my chest... yeah i know.. . its gonna be 3 intersected  triangles in green.. basically. ill post a pick when its done.

we went to southampton on a staff night out.. i say we, and i refer to our collegues and myself.. not adrian. we had a spectacular night.. this was on the 26th of june.
i met the cutest guy.. evah.. from slavakia, a catholic... blonde fluffy  hair... such a sweet  seeming person. i bought him a drink, he bought me a drink, there was chatting and kissing on cheeks.
anyhoo. ..
the following night paddy had a bbq here, which was fun, he and nat invited their mates along . the reason for this was that they were moving to reading at the end on the month.
on the friday july 3rd chrissie me, aidy and neil went to london for fun ,rfolics and shopping. leaving nat and pad packing and stuff. we bid an emotional farewell.lol.we miss him :(
so london was really nice. shopping in oxford street, including hamley's, carnaby street, and selfridges. we were succesful, finding accesories and clothes for n and c's big day.
on the 4th of july i went to chrissies hen night, which was much fun, rosie's vineyard in elmgrove southsea.
beef welington yuuuummm.  then we thought we'd go clubbing, so tried 'babylon'... heheheh omg what a dive... but we giggled and had one drink. chrissie was working the next day so we left after that. twas a good night indeed.

since then we have been tweeking the flat. i had to do something to fill the dreadul void in the lounge and spare room after paddy left. so we now have a dining room and a rearranged lounge. also we've chucked out a heap of stuff from drawers and cupboards..cleaned and tidied etcetc.

then yesterday i gave chris dodd a call for the first time in around 5 years. yes he got a bit of a surprise. but i now have his mobile number buahahahahahaha

today we cooked.. well... adrian cooked. pork chops wih mustard and whisky sauce.. very yummy indeed. followed by  blackberry and raspberry pie and icecream.. accompanied by a nice rosé wine and finished with coffee. so yeah lol.
ill stop typing now.

oh p.s   imsoexcitedaboutharrypotter!!!!!!!!!!!

If there is one person or more on your friends list who makes your world a better place just because they exist and who you would not have met (in real life or not) without the internet, then post this same sentence in your journal


im gonna add the people as well


jesus h biscuit
vague intention

the little house martin perched on his throne
trying to  hide what the hatchlings had done
some of them cried "you must clean up our nest
or we'll peck you and push you right out with the mess"

aaaaargh. i have so many projects in my head. some are aleady in progress and have pitifully little accomplished, others are things id like to do.. aught to do...

*finish writing out the notes from last years holiday journal
*write up and tweek the rituals i was working on
*put the other rituals and stuff ive seen in to the note book i bought
*finish the dress i started

etc

etc

ack.
on top of that, aidy now wants to decorate the hall....*sigh*

i have finally joined the rest of the planet and gone mobile with my computer acess. i have a dell mini net book  and i love it!!! its a whole pcworld in miniature.. im still getting used to it but its pretty easy. the text is soooo tiny! i also finally have my own memory schteek.. so my music is on that.

im going to see the new star trek film this evening..excitement.!



went to a place called the sustainability center not too far from here last weekend with my pagan pals.. much fun. camped in a yurt...
so yeah it was good  .its a great site.. would like to stay there again.

sooo. the boys decided to change the lounge. this happened to be similtaneous with me thinking we ought to change it around anyway. but their plan was more radical and involved a lot more effort than i would have put them to  . as a result the computer monitor is on top of my dinky corner unit that contains  some old crockery and the computer tower is by its side. the keyboard is on a chair and im sitting in the student chair mentioned before in front of said chair.( i say student because it was in a student house but its like... a waiting room chair...anyhoo) its different thats for sure. maybe ill do before and after piccies..(i have old room piccies already :p) other than that nothing much is happening.
i have 11 books in my reading queue...2 started but unfinished as yet.. sheer being-distracted-by-the-tv-ness.
oh yeah i bought sims 2 castaway.... i have played it twice so far in ooooh 9 days.. i think. im not doing too well... and the boys now have easier control of the games consoles so.. i fear sims may be  only an occasional foray in to gaming.
in other news Sam asked me to be one of her brides assistants..matrons of honour type thing! needless to say im rather pleased and rather excited about that.

so..er.. thats it... for now! toodle pip!

guess what?   weather wise....       what ? ya cant guess?.. ok..ok i'll tell ye cos *snigger* you wont get it....

its rainiiiinnng!!!!
so yeah... we went to commercial road and shopped... got a faulty game for the Wii ...so we will go back tomorrow.

i can tell i live with blokes. there is a doctors waiting room type chair in my lounge.. paddy's rolling gear on the side... an xbox360 under my tv, two huge mugs in my dishwasher and supernoodles in the food cupboard.
but im not complaining. its been fun so far and all is groovy :D


i got my nails acrylic'ed yesterday and my hair cut  the other day.. im such a girl sometimes.

 oh.. and apparently ..according to the spirits im officially the mother of  p.a.s.s.   this was awesome beyond all description to find out....it totally blew my mind to have the spirits address me directly.. through our shaman
naturally.he went all pale and his eyes werent focused properly and his mannerisms were different.
 
yeeek  but yay........ but still yeeek

alrighty then.
apparently , so i was told last week , ive been a bit moody. so.. im keeping a close watch on myself and breathing before reacting. *sigh* so far its working.

 it is well and truely spring now... i have mini daffodils in my pots and everything.
been working out still.. going on alright, but not too much effect yet.
erm...

oh yeah, chrissie moved out on saturday...*huge sigh* its odd seeing her room all empty.. again. shes been living with us nearly 3 years so this is a big change for us. so.. we had a get together on friday, me and aidy, chrissie and neil, Si and Sam, and paddy and natalie. pad and nat are (respectively) our new lodger, friend of neil, and his girlfriend who just happened to be at school with sam)
paddy is adorable -cheeky and mischievous, as irish as soda bread,works at p.c world ; nat is a local
girl, really sweet and has an internship at microsoft in busness analysis.
 so... he moves in  on saturday..and then the chaos begins lol

in other news, i got another filling.... joy....


so yeah, thats about the size of it on planet liz.

i think these are rather great!.. well the pirate boots are n't so much sexy as ... fun. i liketh them.
in other news i feel rough... i have come down with a cold :(

so. feeling good. well feeling all pleased with myself anyhoo. in the last few days ive started using the fitness trainer for the Wii.( blah blah ,me singing this things praises ).. id highly recomend it.

on valentines day we didnt do much, which was nice..long hot bath with candles :D

aaaand i baby sat the weekend before.. cos ian and yvonne went to a paaarrtyyy. they asked me to  go again on the 28th.. so, im looking forward to that.

spent the arvo with Matty yesterday.. bless him
oh! the talk i gave on runes went really well.. on the 10th,chuffed with that..and i cant really think of anything else right now..lol

time to update a little.
aidy and i went to a staff party on friday night. it was fun, all different departments were included,i wore my long purply dress and aidy was in his suit.. last night chrissie and neil,aidy, and i went to see Valkyrie.a film about a plot that 'so' nearly succeded, to assassinate Hitler and then secure power in Berlin, replacing the chancellor.

but... big news of the moment was brought to us by chrissie and neil.. they are getting maried!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. wow... just ..aarrgh! so pleased!!. the date is set for july the 28th.. weirdly enough..
today we had a snow flurry, but it didnt snow long enough to really show..although some flakes remained for a while after it had stopped.

FEMINISM~ my thoughts

what do i think it is?

the pursuance of
* our own voice in society
* the same rights in law
* the same pay and
* opportunities in the work place
* the respect of men as equals

what have we achieved so far?

* the top 3 things , and gradually the bottom one.. most men have cottoned on.

so whats next?

instead of worrying about who pays for dinner of opens the car door or being helped on with your coat, or even whistled at in the street, we should concentrate on a different tack.
we should be carrying with us the importance of home making, baby raising, housework etc; .. whom ever out of a partnership does them.

it is a vitally important role in society, often taken on by women, and previously belittled by men, back when it was the exclusive reserve of mothers and wives and so on.yes , times have changed, but we shall get to that later.

we should also think on this..if we allow ourselves to feel as though we are settling for second best when doing 'womens jobs' then we are allowing the long ingrained attitudes of men to dictate what we think, and how we feel about ourselves. this can also be seen when we worry about how we look. who says we have to look a certain way or that certain jobs are 'better' men did (and in some cases still do).

so lets think for ourselves here. we have to impress upon them the huge impact that primary carers have on society; and how difficult a job it can be, but how rewarding it is. a good mother or father has a vital role to play in bringing up happy, healthy, responsible members of society. women shouldnt apologise to the rest of female kind for wanting to do it..some feel a little like they should. when the people out there who dont get it finally understand, then we will be getting somewhere.

so what else is there to bear in mind?

*being equal to men does not mean being identical to men. men and women are different, deliberately so, and thats O.K!!

*its ok to be feminine, and be proud... men are 'lads'they do 'blokey' things and aren't ashamed.


i think thats it..

its so cold. the frost has not lifted anywhere, particularly where its been in shade; the wind is positively icy, and a full moon shines from a cloudless sky. in the sun, the salt from the gritters bleaches the roads, the frozen lawns glitter palest green and all looks drefted with snow.
Everyone , it seems, is feeling its effect, even our local evil- multinational-chain hypermarket. the space heaters were out in force at tesco,we flew around the aisles, each one as cool as the dairy section, finishing in record time.
im so looking forward to spending most of the weekend hiding from the cold and getting some quality time with my hubby, a rare comodity.
when im out tomorrow, at the post office..remind me to by crumpets.. when we get back from that and picking up tortilla wraps and peanut butter, we will need warming up... :D no better way than crumpets and tea

well its new years eve. im heading over for a night of moderate jolification at a friends flat. i say moderate because i am working tomorrow. im thinking of the money.
so overall.. a good year? yeah id say so, much better than last year.im quite hopeful, at this stage, of a good 2009 because i cancelled tentative plans to go to amsterdam, this is good? yes.. why? because we can save the money and use it on making sure our car doesnt cause us grief.
hubby and i have also reached a stage in our relationship where talking seems to be a real solid aspect of how things are. odd? for us.. yes!, so im really glad we are doing the whole conversation thing.
erm..oh... christmas was good! i was off for xmas eve, xmas day and boxing day, so i slept late, went to my parents on xmas eve; did midnight mass...'with' hubby(!!!). we had a nice xmas day... lots of nice goodies, lots of laughs, adorable neice and nephew, then we watched the queen , wallace+gromit, and shark-tale. in the evening we watched the royle family.. which was great!
then on boxing day we went, tokens in hand, to gunwharf shops on a spending spree. so yeah.

righty.. thats quite enough.

p.s i may not say much on here, but i always read my friends page.. so.. yeah.. im interested, and share in all your joys and bleurghs. love ya lots and all the best for 2009!!

  
hello all

this year i made sure i was off work around the winter solstice. so i had a fantastic plan.. and all was set for a nice family party on  sun 21st. the food was bought and the house was tidy, and decorated..then the electricity started to be a pain in the proverbial rear end. while trying to sort it out, my brother called to say that he and his wife were feeling very rough and didnt want to spread the germs around.
so... plan b.. which was to take the food to my parents, eat what we could and save the veg for christmas eve.. so we plodded over to my parents and had a very nice time organising presents and decorating their tree and readying their beach hut for winter.
i was very calm throughout the whole affair, and tried to make the best off the afternoon . i actually enjoyed myself!
later that day i went to a christmas concert to support my mate Sam, she was great!..lots of fun :D.. then i had to put in an appearance at a birthday/solstice party. so that was nice.. mince pies and mulled wine and singing :D

i had an unconventional  celebration... not the solstice id planned, but fun, nonethe less.

last night was the staff get together at the casino.. fab fun...
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had a get together with mah posse last night.. chinese buffet and then the cinema.. madagascar 2... fantastic... even better than the first one.

so its now christmas eve and im thinking, ive had 3 christmas do's..actually 4 and im still not particularly feeling christmassy.. why? i suppose because the bank lost some money for us and all our preparations were delayed.. so a bit of stress there; but its all over now.. so i guess the christmassyness will start to kick in.

even so.. i'll still have a great time... so im not worried.. im pleased .. mostly , with what i have got people, and thats the important part for me.
i hope all my faithful readers *yeah... right.. lol i have them in their thousands*  
have a lovely time... squishy glow or not...and a fantastic 2009

xxx princess lizzie